Learning to Look After Yourself Again

tumblr_mhd7umjlIR1qc4uvwo1_400Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog! This post is a little different to what I usually write about because I’m going to be sharing a personal experience of a recent break up.

In October, my long-term relationship very sadly came to an end and now 6 months later, I finally feel ready to share my thoughts and reflections on what I’ve learnt about relationships and how to look after yourself when they come to an end.

  1. Give yourself time to process

When a relationship comes to an end, I think it’s important to allow yourself some time over the days that follow to process what has happened. It doesn’t have to be a really long time, it could just be going for a walk, having a bubble bath or doing anything that gives you some alone time. I personally feel like I need to do this to understand how I feel first before I can reach out to friends and family to talk through some of those emotions.

  1. Always put yourself first

This may sound like a no-brainer, but I think it’s really easy to lose sight of your goals when there is someone you love in the picture. After a break-up, there’s nothing wrong with just taking a break from your friends or other social commitments and spending some time focusing on getting yourself back on track to where you want to be. Everyone will understand!

  1. It’s okay not to be okay

It’s destructive to tell ourselves things like “I should be over this by now” or “I should be handling this better” because it’s painful when relationships come to an end and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for feeling sad about it. It’s healthy to cry as much as you need to so don’t hold back!

  1. Keep yourself busy

After a break up, I think it’s important to keep your mind occupied because feeling bored can make you miss your ex-partner even more. Don’t forget that a relationship takes up a huge amount of time in your day-to-day life, so your schedule might feel a little more empty than it used to, but this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It could just mean that you have more time for things you may not of before, so use the opportunity to try a new hobby like writing a blog for instance!

  1. A fresh start

When you feel like you’ve started to move on, a fresh start can help you start to feel some closure. You could do this by joining a gym, applying for a new job or redecorating your home. This creates a new chapter where you can being to build exciting, new memories.

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Lottie x

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3 Steps Towards a Happier Life

tumblr_mg2ywvGIWy1qc4uvwo1_500Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog! In this post, I’m going to share what I believe are 3 steps towards living a happier life.

1. Love yourself

The only person that can make you happy is you and life is too short not to do what you love. I think that too many people go through life without ticking anything off their bucket list. If you don’t have a good enough reason to put off travelling to a new country or taking up a new hobby then it’s never to late to make it happen!

2. Moving on

Just like hair, people are always growing and it’s okay to trim off the dead ends when you feel like you have outgrown them. Everyone is growing and changing at different rates, so you can’t expect to always be compatible with the same situation throughout your life. Whether it’s a friendship or a relationship, people grow apart and I think it’s important to remember that letting go may create space for something better.

3. Balance

Family, dreams, love, work, friends, money, everyone has so much going on! I think happiness is finding a balance and not allowing one aspect of your life to over power the others. Of course, sometimes one part of your life will need to be prioritised and sometimes to lose the harmony completely is all part of living a balanced life.

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Lottie x

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5 Common Myths About Depression

2I think that the negative stigmas surrounding mental health problems are the main reason why people choose to suffer in silence rather than seek the help that they need. People can be made to feel ashamed of depression due to lack of knowledge, understanding and belief in common misconceptions and I’m glad that’s finally changing.

1. “Depression means that you’re sad all the time”

Sadness is a symptom of depression, not depression itself. Sadness comes and goes, where as depression causes a range of unpleasant emotions that can make every day life very difficult to live. However, it’s a myth that people with depression never feel happy or have fun. 2a07248b61ba36b186e75cb9ad3a1e08

2. “People with depression don’t go out”

Of course, depression can make it much harder to enjoy socializing, but people who suffer from depression don’t just lie in bed and watch Netflix all day. At the end of the day, you have to be resilient and get on with every day life, no matter how challenging it may be at times.

3. “Depression is caused my traumatic events”

It’s very likely that past traumatic events can trigger or lead to mental health issues in later life, but this is not the only cause. When it comes to mental health, depression doesn’t discriminate and it can affect anyone at any time.

4. “Antidepressants are the magic solution”

There is no “cure” for depression, it’s not only a mental disorder, but also a biological and psychological condition. However, depending on the situation, doctors may prescribe antidepressants, but this is usually accompanied by therapy or counselling. On top of that, anyone suffering with mental health issues need lots of love and support from their friends and family.

5. “Depression is all in your head”

As well as emotional side effects, depression can cause physical symptoms, such as, insomnia, headaches, joint and muscle pains and changes in appetite which can cause the person to gain or loose weight. However, everyone is different and symptoms vary from person to person, so you never know how depression is going to effect you.

Thank you for reading this post, I think it’s really important to continue raising awareness on the stigmas surrounding mental health. Please don’t forget to follow my blog for more weekly posts!

Lottie x


8 Things Not to Say to Someone with Anxiety #MHAW2017

b32bb0df4d0958f5bb3e33c2ca419515As its Mental Health Awareness Week, I wanted to write a post to raise awareness on the stigma surrounding Anxiety. 1/4 people will be affected by mental illness at some point in their life, so if you are not experiencing it yourself then it’s more than likely that you will know someone who is.  Therefore, I believe it’s important to speak openly about mental health not only for those who are suffering, but to also give their friends and family a better understanding of mental illness.

“You’re pathetic”

Anxiety can make the most simple everyday tasks seem almost impossible. Always be mindful because you never know what’s going on inside someone else’s head that could be making them struggle with something that you find really easy.


“Get over it”

If only it were that easy! The same as any physical health problem, anxiety is not something that you can control, you wouldn’t tell someone with a broken leg to just get over it and get out of bed! There are lots of organisations that offer help and support to people living with mental illness, which can make it more manageable, but not just put a stop to it all together.

“You’re not even trying”

On the outside, it may look like someone is not trying very hard to help themselves, but anxiety is a constant battle, which can make it difficult to do all kinds of things, like socialize and maintain strong relationships or even just to get out of bed in the morning.

“People have it worse than you”

Being privileged doesn’t prevent mental illness or deny anyone the right to feel sad sometimes. Everyone has their dark days and I think it’s unkind to belittle someone’s emotions and make them feel insignificant.


“Stop apologising”

It’s a common trait for people suffering with anxiety to find comfort in being over apologetic and polite. It’s important not to get frustrated by this and do your best to reassure them that everything is okay.

“What do you have to feel stressed/anxious about?”

This confrontational attitude is not kind or helpful. You never know what’s going on in someone else’s life, physically or mentally, so I think it’s important to respect people’s personal issues and this goes for everyone!

“What you’re doing isn’t helping, you should try…”

This is a tricky one because depending on the situation, trying to help someone by giving them advice could be really helpful. However, in some cases, what the person is stuck doing isn’t necessarily what they would ideally like to be doing. Anxiety can build barricades between a person and their hobbies and social life. In which case, it’s important not to force them into doing anything they don’t feel comfortable with.

“I know how you feel”

Unless you have a personal experience of an anxiety disorder/s, then I don’t believe you can understand how someone who is suffering from anxiety is feeling. Everyone experiences stressful situations throughout their lives and this can lead to an anxiety disorder developing, but feeling anxious or stressed before an exam or interview is not the same as having an anxiety disorder.

If you know someone who is suffering with mental health problems or you are yourself, then please comment or contact me to share your thoughts and experiences. It’s important to always remember that you are not alone and there are so many places where you can seek help if and when you feel ready.

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Lottie x

NYX Lip Lingerie – Over or Underrated?

800897848330_liplingerie_pushup_alt1Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog! I was a little late in first trying out the NYX Lip Lingerie product, but at just £7, I decided to test it out in the shade “Push-Up”. I immediately fell in love with the pink nude colour with a slight brown undertone. I usually combine this product with a Mac Lip Pencil in shade “Boldly bare” which has similar red/brown tones and matches perfectly!

The consistency of the product is really smooth and easy to apply and I love the completely matte finish that doesn’t crack. My only criticism would be that the product becomes really dry a few moments after application and I usually feel the need to apply a small amount of clear lip balm or Vaseline on top to prevent my lips from feeling dehydrated. However, this product is the most long lasting lipstick that I’ve ever used and it stays perfectly intact all day/night. In addition to this, NYX’s range of gorgeous nude shades and the matte finish is perfect for me.

Overall, I think that NYX Lip Lingerie is a great product, but I think the formula still needs perfecting, so it feels more weightless than dry. I’m not sure if I would recommend it, but at such an affordable price, I think it’s worth testing it out for yourself. I love matte nude lipsticks, so this is definitely one of my go-to lip products at the moment!

Do you own a Lingerie Lipstick? What do you think?

Lottie x

Why Zara Is Winning the High Street This Spring

untitledWelcome to my first blog post! My favourite season of the year is upon us and I was on the hunt for a light weight spring jacket. After purchasing my winter coat from Zara last year, I thought this would be a good place to start looking and it wasn’t long before I came across this gorgeous sky blue jacket.

I love this jacket because the fitted sleeves and lapels look smart and sophisticated, but the biker zips and belt give the jacket a bit of edge. The suede effect material is light and comfortable which makes this jacket a perfect spring item and the pale baby blue colour softens the overall look of the jacket.

I also love this jacket because it can be dressed up with a shirt or dress for a more formal look or dressed down with jeans and t-shirt for a more casual outfit.

I bought this jacket from Zara for £59.99. If you are interested in purchasing this jacket click here.

Thank you so much for reading my first post, I hope you enjoyed it. If you would to see more of my posts don’t forget to follow my blog, I’m going to be uploading every Wednesday at 7pm.

Lottie x