Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog! This post is a little different to what I usually write about because I’m going to be sharing a personal experience of a recent break up.
In October, my long-term relationship very sadly came to an end and now 6 months later, I finally feel ready to share my thoughts and reflections on what I’ve learnt about relationships and how to look after yourself when they come to an end.
- Give yourself time to process
When a relationship comes to an end, I think it’s important to allow yourself some time over the days that follow to process what has happened. It doesn’t have to be a really long time, it could just be going for a walk, having a bubble bath or doing anything that gives you some alone time. I personally feel like I need to do this to understand how I feel first before I can reach out to friends and family to talk through some of those emotions.
- Always put yourself first
This may sound like a no-brainer, but I think it’s really easy to lose sight of your goals when there is someone you love in the picture. After a break-up, there’s nothing wrong with just taking a break from your friends or other social commitments and spending some time focusing on getting yourself back on track to where you want to be. Everyone will understand!
- It’s okay not to be okay
It’s destructive to tell ourselves things like “I should be over this by now” or “I should be handling this better” because it’s painful when relationships come to an end and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for feeling sad about it. It’s healthy to cry as much as you need to so don’t hold back!
- Keep yourself busy
After a break up, I think it’s important to keep your mind occupied because feeling bored can make you miss your ex-partner even more. Don’t forget that a relationship takes up a huge amount of time in your day-to-day life, so your schedule might feel a little more empty than it used to, but this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It could just mean that you have more time for things you may not of before, so use the opportunity to try a new hobby like writing a blog for instance!
- A fresh start
When you feel like you’ve started to move on, a fresh start can help you start to feel some closure. You could do this by joining a gym, applying for a new job or redecorating your home. This creates a new chapter where you can being to build exciting, new memories.
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